1. stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

“I don’t think I’ll ever forgive David for the way he treated her”

(synonyms: pardon, excuse, exonerate, absolve)

  • stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for (an offense, flaw, or mistake).

“they are not going to pat my head and say all is forgiven”

  • cancel (a debt).

“he proposed that their debts should be forgiven”

I once worked with a man whose mother, by birth and by training, was truly a ninja warrior.  My co-worker’s mom was an accomplished martial artist, and a self-defense instructor for several police departments . My co-worker told me that he had seen his mom do some very violent things to others, so violent in fact that he grew up with absolutely no desire to follow in her footsteps and study karate. My friend told me that his mom lived by a very strict motto—a motto that had been handed down to her from generations of her warrior ancestors—which went something like this, “If you scratch my arm, I will cut your flesh, If you bruise my flesh, I will break your bones.” Although I did not grow up in a household of martial arts experts, I did grow up in a culture that routinely programmed me to think that “Revenge is a dish that is best served cold.”

From birth I was taught to hurt those that hurt me, and that it was my right to hold people accountable for their wrongs. However, as a man that has experienced the new birth through faith in Jesus Christ, God is teaching me that this kind of thinking is wrong.  As a follower of Jesus, I am being taught a new philosophy of life that instructs me to love my enemies, and to forgive them.

Matthew 6:12 And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors.

Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Matthew 18:21 ¶ Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

You may ask, “How serious is God about us learning and living the new behavior of forgiveness?” “How far does God want us to take this?” Well the answer to these questions can be found in Matthew 6:15, where Jesus said that if we do not practice forgiveness then “neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Furthermore, the standard of forgiveness by which God will hold us accountable is the standard demonstrated to us by Jesus himself. I like R. T. Kendall’s thoughts on “Total Forgiveness” below. R. T. Kendall writes,

     It is very hard to forgive those who have hurt us directly, especially when they do not feel the slightest twinge of conscience. If our offender would put on sackcloth and ashes as a show of repentance, it would be much easier to forgive them.

     But remember, at the foot of Jesus’ cross no one seemed very sorry. There was no justice at His ‘trial’—if you could even call it a trial. A perverse glee filled the faces of the people who demanded His death: “’Crucify him!’ they shouted” (Mark 15:13). Furthermore, :those who passed by hurled insults at him, shaking their heads and saying, ‘So! You who are going to destroy the temple and build it in three days, come down from the cross and save yourself!’” (Mark 15:29-30). They shouted, “Let this Christ, the King of Israel, come down now from the cross, that we may see and believe” (Mark 15:32).

     What was Jesus’ response? “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). This must be our response as well.

     Jesus could have said, “I forgive you.” But such words might have been misinterpreted and wasted, like casting His pearls before swine. (see Matthew 7:6) Instead Jesus asked the Father to forgive them, a far more grand gesture. Asking the Father to forgive them showed that not only had He forgiven them and released them from their guilt, but also that He had asked His Father not to punish or take revenge on them. It was not a perfunctory prayer; Jesus meant it. And it was gloriously answered! These offenders were among the very ones Peter addressed on the Day of Pentecost and were converted. (see Acts 2:14-41)

Three Crosses and Silhoutted Person in Prayer at Sunrise


Self-righteous need not apply


Help Wanted Self righteous     I am always convicted when I read the Bible and note that the persons that gave Jesus the most trouble and grief were not the sinners, but the “saints”; not the rebels but the religious.

For example in Luke 5, the Bible records that when Jesus sat to eat with a “great number of tax collectors and others”, the religious folk who were observing complained, saying, “Why do You eat and drink with tax collectors and sinners?”

Or how about the time when a woman, probably a prostitute, came and drenched Jesus’ feet with her tears, and wiped them clean with her hair; even kissing his feet and anointing them with fragrant oil.  (Luke 7:37-38)  Simon, Jesus’ host, said to himself, “If He were a prophet, would know who and what manner of woman this is who is touching Him, for she is a sinner.”

What convicts me personally is when I realize how easy it is for me to see how wrong the religious folk and self-righteous Simon were, while knowing that it is always easy to judge someone else’s sin and not my own.

Do gross sinners and prostitutes need God’s grace more than religious and self-righteous people?  I think not.  Let me suggest that the only difference between the two camps is that more often than not the “tax collectors” and prostitutes of this world know that they are sinners in need of God’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness whereas the religious and self-righteous don’t see their need.

 Luke 18:10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.  11 “The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men–extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector.  12 ‘I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’  13 “And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’  14 “I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”



The Imperative of living the Truth

John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.

3 John 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.

I love Michael Card’s thoughts RE: the imperative of living the Truth. Michael writes,

Telling the truth can be a serious and costly business. It cost Jesus His life, but at the same time, it purchased a new life for us. To be condemned means to forfeit all your freedom, but Jesus says that the truth means freedom (John 8:32)

And so the paradox remains: In this world the only true freedom comes from the truth of Jesus, and the inevitable consequence of testifying to the Truth is judgment by the world. To be free indeed, we must become slaves to the truth of Jesus. The condemnation that we will experience at all levels in the world is the truest freedom. (A Violent Grace, p. 82)

He was cru·ci·fy·ed for our sins,





past tense: crucified; past participle: crucified

  1. 1. – to put (someone) to death by nailing or binding them to a cross, especially as an ancient punishment.

For as long as I can remember I have always loved the impact that taking the Lord’s Supper has had on me. As a boy, and a young believer, I would hold the small cup of wine in my hands before drinking it and solemnly think of the sacrifice that Jesus laid before the Father as an atonement for my sins.

Author Michael Card (A Violent Grace) calls us to reflect on the tremendous display of God’s redeeming love toward us by experiencing the agony of Christ suffering through the power of our imagination.  Card writes,

Josephus (First Century Jewish historian)revealed the ferocity of Roman flogging when, commenting on the fate of a prisoner of the Jewish War, said that the man was lacerated to he bone with scourges.  In face, the only stipulation Roman law made was that a man would be flogged until the flesh hung from his back.  The blows fell until the skin split open and the muscles were severed; until ligaments tore and bone chipped.  Some men were disemboweled.  Many did not survive.

To intensify the suffering of the victim, flogging always preceded a crucifixion.  As an unintentional mercy, it could hasten death when it resulted in a massive loss of blood.

Imagine it with me.

Jesus is standing there stripped, shackled, and alone in the circle.  The legionnaire steps forward, opens his reach, and begins.  The scourges hiss through the air in a wide arc and sink with a thud into Christ’s skin.

The crowd howls.

The scourges rise again and again in the soldier’s fist.  And fall.  And rise again.

Soldiers sneer and spit.  The scourges hiss and thud into purple flesh.  Blood flows.  God’s chosen people scream for more.

The tormentor grunts and sweats, but keeps reaching back for that terrible, wide arc.

Jesus crumples.  Guards rush to jerk Him to His feet.  The scourges rise again, and fall.

Look!  The righteous anger of God, diverted for all time, is pouring down on this man, His Son.

But the fault is mine, and I must look away.

It is one think to speak in theological terms about an obligatory sacrifice for a fallen world.  It is an entirely different thing to stand in the presence of brutal men and their instruments of torture and try to watch, realizing that Jesus endured all that and more for you and me. (Michael Card, A Violent Grace, p. 65-66)

When I partake of the communion elements, I cannot help but think to myself, “Why did He do it.”  “Why would God’s Son die for a miserable, evil, and undeserving sinner like me?”  The only answers that I have ever come up with, and the only ones that have ever made since, are these: 1) Jesus loves me, and 2) God is gracious.

Romans 5:6-8  ¶ For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare towd how die. 8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that  while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Glory in this: God’s grace

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Jeremiah 9:23 ¶ Thus says the LORD: “Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, Let not the mighty man glory in his might, Nor let the rich man glory in his riches;  24 But let him who glories glory in this, That he understands and knows Me, That I am the LORD, exercising lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness in the earth. For in these I delight,” says the LORD.

2 Corinthians 12:9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

For many years I have lived with the conviction that if I think that I have found a hidden truth in the Bible that no one before me could see or figure out, or if I think I have gained a new insight or revelation from God about a particular Bible truth that has been lost for ages, or if I think that I possess a deeper understanding of the gospel than all of the other saints who have walked the faith road before me,  then it is more than likely (99.999% sure) that my newly discovered truth, revelation, or understanding of the Bible is heresy.  For this reason I like reading the words of the saints of old; Godly men that God has wonderfully used in the past to feed and shepherd his people.  I truly believe that better minds than mine have been at this thing for a long time, and if I humble myself, and suppress the inward inclination within me to think more of myself than I ought, then I can learn many things from the elders of the church that will help me navigate my own spiritual journey.  With this said, I love Martin Luther’s words below concerning the wonderfully humbling grace of Jesus.  Luther said:

God wants to regard and does regard us as completely righteous and holy, for the sake of Christ our mediator.  Although sin in the flesh is still not completely gone or dead, God will still not count it or consider it.

….. Therefore we cannot boast about the great merit of our works, where they are viewed without grace and mercy.  Rather, as it is written, “Let the one who boast, boast in the Lord.”  If one has a gracious God, then everything is good.  Furthermore, we say also that if good works do not follow, then the faith (the faith we say we have in Christ) is false and not true.”  (Martin Luther, The Schmalkald Articles – translated by Wm. R. Russell)

How to kill a giant


1 Samuel 17:33, 37 And Saul said to David, “You are not able to go against this Philistine {Goliath} to fight with him; for you are a youth, and he a man of war from his youth.” …… David said, “The LORD, who delivered me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear, He will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine.”

Humanly speaking, Saul spoke the truth when he said to David, “You are not able to go against this Philistine.”  Take a quick look at David’s resume below and see if you don’t agree with Sauls words

  • David was merely a youth (a lad) when Saul shared his assessment of David’s chance of success against Goliath.
  • David was not even the choicest of his own fathers children.
  • David was a shepherd to this point of his career, and unskilled in war.

Goliath, on the other hand, was a powerful man, a giant, and a seasoned warrior;  Goliath was someone whose visage and words made Saul, Israel’s champion and giant, tremble. (1 Samuel 17:11) Nevertheless, what Saul said was impossible, David believed was possible with the Lord on his side.

Perhaps David remembered the Bible lessons that he would have been taught from his childhood; lessons about how God had delivered the sons of Anak (giants!) into the hands of his forefather Caleb. (Joshua 14:7-15)

Caleb said, “As yet I am as strong this day as on the day that Moses sent me; just as my strength was then, so now is my strength for war, both for going out and for coming in.
12 “Now therefore, give me this mountain of which the LORD spoke in that day; for you heard in that day how the Anakim were there, and that the cities were great and fortified. It may be that the LORD will be with me, and I shall be able to drive them out as the LORD said.” (Joshua 14:11,12)

Perhaps David believed that God was not a respecter of persons; thinking to himself, “If God graciously did this for Caleb, then why would He not do it for me?”

……… Believing that God is no respecter of persons is essential to becoming a doer of the word, and not a hearer only–doers hear or read the Word, and believe it; letting their beliefs govern their actions.  On the other hand, hearers only listen or read the Word, and what they have heard or read has little to no impact on their actions ……..

It seems obviously from the text that David, as a youth, had already come to the conclusion that God has never asked Saul, David, Moses, Caleb, or anyone else for that matter, to do anything in their own strength or to walk by their own sight.  God in His word ask us to:

  • “walk by faith and not by sight,” (2 Cor. 5:7)
  • “lean to your own understanding, {but} in all our ways acknowledge him,” (Proverbs 3:5,6)
  • know that His “strength is made perfect in weakness.”  (2 Cor. 12:9)

Yes, by human standards Saul was right in saying that there was no way that anyone in Israel could defeat this giant. However, by God’s standard, the standard of faith, the giant was already defeated.

1 Samuel 17:43 So the Philistine said to David, “Am I a dog, that you come to me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. 44 And the Philistine said to David, “Come to me, and I will give your flesh to the birds of the air and the beasts of the field!”

1 Samuel 17: 45 Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword, with a spear, and with a javelin. But I come to you in the name of the LORD of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 “This day the LORD will deliver you into my hand, and I will strike you and take your head from you. And this day I will give the carcasses of the camp of the Philistines to the birds of the air and the wild beasts of the earth, that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel.

David was a lad when he defeated his giant.  Caleb, on the other hand, was 85 years old.  No matter what station in life you find yourself, by faith the giants will fall!  Faith in God, not your own strength, is the victory!

But what is genuine faith? I like Watchman Nee’s observation below on what constitutes genuine faith and what doesn’t. Watchman Nee (The Life That Wins) wrote:

What is genuine faith? Genuine faith believes in the Word of God exclusively, it is not believing in one’s own experience, feeling, or dark environment. If environment and experience coincide with God’s word, we praise and thank the Lord. But if these disagree with His word, then the word of God alone stands true. Whatever is contrary to God’s word is false. Satan may insinuate to you, saying: How can you say you have victory? Where is your victory since you are as corrupt and weak as you were before? But you can counter him with this: “Indeed, I am still I, I will never change, but God says Christ is my holiness, my life and my victory.”

Though Satan suggest to you that you are still corrupt and weak, God’s word remains true. Whatever the enemy whispers to you is false; only the word of the Lord is true!